Hello readers. Allow me to introduce myself. I’m Ryan, Yollege on BGG.
A quick summary of me. I’m 44, a father of 3, and an avid reader (Mostly sci-fi and fantasy.), disc golfer, and gamer (Both board & video.). I also really enjoy craft beer and have recently been fermenting foods.
Now I’m going to tell my gaming history, so it will be a little long, and a little personal at times.
I’ve always loved games, but I grew up in a really small town where there weren’t others to play with. Most of my gaming memories as a kid were on my own. I could be impulsive with my purchases, I know I had Fireball Island and Conquest of the Empire, and played them on my own.
I looked into games when I was in college, but again I was buying and not playing. I also had some social anxiety about meeting people. I collected RPG books and CCG’s (I still have my original Netrunner cards.), but again was rarely playing. Dina and I got married in 1997. We had our first child Joseph in 1998.
Things changed once we moved to the Minneapolis/St Paul area after Dina got a job up there. I had some friends that lived in the area and we were looking for excuses to hang out. We started by playing the Wizards of the Coast Star Wars RPG, but we screwed around too much to get anywhere in a night, so we moved onto Heroclix.
Heroclix gave me a reason to go to the game store. I found Blokus. That led me to BGG. I’ve had an obsession ever since. This was probably around 2000-2001. We added a daughter, Katlyn, in 2002. We started getting a regular weekly group together, several people that are still close friends today. I was buying a lot of games, but the others were bringing some too. Most of us had kids or had to be to work early, so we tried to be done playing by 9-9:30 (Typically Thursday nights.). We had Saturday game days occasionally to get longer games played. We started going to the Con of the North, and were making friends there too.
But in 2009 that all changed. Dina’s job was leaving Minnesota. We were suddenly moving our family to Kansas. We found out the weekend of Con of the North, so we had a fun time there, knowing we were leaving soon (We had about a month/month and a half to get moved.). We had a final game day with our friends, and left for Topeka.
Gaming has been on and off since moving. We found a good group of friends here, but none of us have been able to make a weekly gaming night stick, but we were getting together often. We even threw our own single day Con to help raise money for a friend who had a heart attack.
Then in September of 2011 everything changed for us. A mentally ill neighbor shot Dina in front of the older kids and me. She only spent a few days in hospital initially, but had to have spinal surgery due to bullet fragments lodging in her spine. Needless to say, gaming took a back seat, and I auctioned off a significant chunk of our games to local gamers and friends in MN. The Con this time was for Dina.
We never stopped gaming, but it slowed quite a bit. We gradually got it going again, although most of my plays were with the family, but we still saw our friends to play occasionally. The collection started growing again. In 2014, our family grew. We added another daughter, Aleksia. A bit of a surprise, but a wonderful surprise.
Dina lost her job in 2016. Again we sold off a chunk of the collection. This time as more of a panic sale.
But now, in 2018, I am gaming a lot again. The majority is with the family, but we try to get together with our friends when we can. Joe is absolutely a gamer. Katlyn has lost interest, although if that was due to the shooting, or just being a teenager, I’ll never be sure. Aleksia loves games, which means we have acquired a big bunch of small kids games again (For obvious reasons, we had passed on the games we had to friends when the other two outgrew them.). Dina tries to play with us when she’s feeling up to it, she still has a lot of pain due to the shooting. I have also started playing games solo on occasion, which was something I never did.
Our game group down here have become our friends and family. When we get together, we are just as likely to sit and chat than we are to play games. They helped us a lot after the shooting, and have helped us move twice. And we have helped them when we could with things. We try to get together at least once a month, but scheduling occasionally gets difficult.
Ok, I am sure I could have cut half of this, but I was on a roll and didn’t want to stop once I got going. Future posts should be shorter, but I’m not making any promises.
Here are a couple of pic, one of the family and the other being our current collection, except the kids games, which are mostly off camera to the left: